I don't know what to do. A couple of months ago my Host family asked if I would mind staying another year. I told them I probably wouldn't mind, but now that I've been here...I think I want to leave in January. The parenting styles are just not what I was expecting. Maybe I'm a bit more "conservative" in this department.
Right now the kids rule the house. Thats the total opposite of how I was raised (I'm only 18...it wasn't that long ago). When my parents asked me to do something, I did it. No questions asked. Right now the kids are talking back and not listening. They leave the house a total disaster and then tell me it's MY JOB to clean up after them. Yes, it is my job, but they also need to gain life skills. They are going to be 18 years old and not know how to do laundry or use a vaccuum.
I don't think I could handle another year of this. I'm an actually human being and sometimes I'm made to feel like I'm their own personal Cinderella. I havn't told the family yet that I plan on leaving, and I don't want to. I feel horrible for wanting to leave, but I know it's best for me. I'm going to try and find another nanny job close to the Seattle area which is where my sister lives. I need to be close to some family.
Now I just need to decide when the right time to tell them is.
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ReplyDeleteI agree. You need to find a family where your strengths can be used. So many today let their children run wild and raise them without boundaries. The way you want to raise these children is right and you need to not waste your time where you are not appreciated. I would hire you for sure if I needed (and could afford) a nanny!
As far as timing goes, the sooner the better.
ReplyDeleteBut that is not always true.
You are smart cookie, so you will know when the time is right.
I never thought being a nanny constituted as also being a maid. You shouldn't have to clean up after them, but yes you should be teaching them to help pick up their messes. I feel for you. Maybe you should find another job. It sounds like these people are definitely taking advantage of you and taking you for granted- they will be sorry when you are gone. I give it three months and they'll be on nanny 911, begging to be saved! :)
ReplyDeleteGood luck to you, teenage nanny
((hugs)) - I know it's a hard thing, but you need to do what is best for YOU, not for them. Best of luck to you!!
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